Been working some things out with my boy.
Having some good talks- and some moments of realizing how very proud I am of who he is and how he handles himself in life:
Tonight, we were having a car talk. One of my favorites with my people. The van is the perfect cubicle for deep, personal chats. More on that another time!
He shared some insight about how he navigates a couple of social settings that have caused pain to other family members who have gone before him in those same settings.
He said he determines to go in and make it a brighter place, and he doesn’t expect to necessarily find a close friend amongst the people there. He recognizes it has been a place of pain for people he cares about so has a caution there.
Then, he shared one of his profound quotes with me (which, frankly, caused my literary soul to soar with joy!!) He shared that he memorized a line from Shakespeare that he keeps at heart for his own, personal narrative:
He ruminated that at a certain point, it is important to realize that your critiquer doesn’t really know you; the real, true person that you are. And honestly, this is especially true/significant when you are dealing with any kind of personal struggle.
And- with that in mind, he recited a line from Romeo and Juliet ( a play he recently read) because he deemed it so appropriate to social situations, roasts, and unkind comments – and in particular this context where there has been a bit of verbal mud-slinging.
“I see thou know’st me not…”
Act 1 Scene 3 Romeo and Juliet
And he said, “At some point, you just have to realize that the person making the unkind comments, remarks, or ‘jokes,’ doesn’t really know you.”
That person doesn’t have the key to the inner heart where the real person lives, breathes, and feels. This line serves so well as the final word (whether spoken out loud or in the heart!) in a verbal spar that has no good ending.
So, shrug your shoulders (deflect the comments), and move on. They know you not (and they are missing out! -says the mother!!! 🙂 )
Wise, wise words my son, and words that I need to take to heart for myself!
The Things They Say
(My darling, sixteen year old son memorizing and quoting Shakespeare to me. Love!!)