Mentoring Mondays: Mission of Motherhood Chapter 5 Part 1

All quotations taken from 2003; Waterbrook Press

Chapter 5: The Discipling Mother

I want them to leave my home with a hunger and passion to know God personally and be used by him to accomplish great things for His kingdom. I want them to personally hear God’s voice and have his Spirit’s gentle touch and impression on their hearts as they read Scripture and struggle with the issues of their lives….Whatever else we give our children as they grow, he wants us to pass along an eternal vision, and purpose, as well as passion for Christ. If we are wise, we will keep this goal ever before us— to keep us focused on what really matters, on the ultimate purpose of our activity as parents.  Chp 5 pg 80

I ponder these words. I stand on the cusp of one of my young men beginning the first leg of his journey outside our home. I can truthfully say that I do not think I have done well imparting some of this to him. I have felt very motivated my entire motherhood to prepare my son well to be a strong provider for a family that the Lord might one day grant him. I have wanted him to be able to lead with integrity and intellect in any sphere the Lord might have for him.

Page 83 discusses the reality of life and the pressure that is felt in every arena to measure up to the world’s standards.

The focus must always be the heart. Not the external standard- and this also applies to external standards of behavior that a Christian parent can become so caught up in. It is the heart that matters and the heart is the pre-eminent place of importance in Christ.

The fact that the word heart appears more than eight hundred times in any Bible translation should tell us something about how important  our children’s hearts are to God. The first great commandment given in Deuternonomy (and quoted later by Jesus) is “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might” (6:5; also Luke 10:27). Chp 5 pg 84

Note: the biblical meaning of heart encompasses far beyond the scope of the physical organ pumping blood through our bodies.

Heart in the biblical sense is a much deeper, more meaningful word. The vast majority of the eight hundred occurrences in the Bible refers to the mental, emotional core of  a person. In a sense, the biblical heart of a person is the core of that person’s being– who she really is inside. The word heart encompasses her inner thoughts, her true feelings, her motivations, the very seat of  personhood. Chp 5 pg 84

The discipling focus in this chapter is broken down into sub-topics like this:  a plan for shaping hearts, being “with” our children,  instructing our children, training our children, guarding our children’s influences.

Sally Clarkson offers insight, depth, and instruction for each of these areas. She emphasizes the importance of being intentional about impacting the hearts of our children and that the discipleship model presented through Scripture is one of a long life relationship. In and out of many days, living life together, imparting the reality of real faith to our precious children -and the only way I can do that- is to nurture and develop my own faith and walk! I am pondering the concepts surrounding guarding influences. I have walked with this for many years- and we are currently more relaxed than we have been in earlier years. Some of this comes from having such older children now. Things are so very different. I am prayerfully pondering this in light of all my darlings.

I pray that the Lord helps me to keep my focus on the heart and He gives me wisdom to guide my children correctly and carefully. I pray that no cloud of apathy, laziness, or film of fatigue would allow me to overlook anything that might endanger my children or lead them astray.

Thanks for reading here! Be blessed dear ones!

As always, I welcome your reflections on what this means for you or your home/family.


Endless Gifts

From February:

A late night talk with Nathanael and the importance of current events, a Lego Minifig in my inbox, Christian worldview, and his “like” on my 66books because he loves me. 🙂 and…sharing Fridays there with him.

Tea with Joshua and more tea times in my planner

Plum Paper!!!! (and stickers) and somehow life feels way more manageable… and somehow, I am much more confident in the driver seat of this life… with these navigating tools.

Hormones (as in hormone replacement therapy- been so very, very helpful for me)

Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip Cookies made by the youngest baker we have had yet (Joshua)

A tin of tea that is amazing again, again, again. I love it all.

Roses! Crimson, fragrant. From Micah.

Valentine’s Day and the dear, sweet friend who helped me rally…and silly tongue twisters around the table… and the most amazing smell as dinner wafted through all the house times two… first, the savory meat and vegetables… and then! the bread. Warm and home-made. The best smells in the world.

Little girlies in heart tunics… so excited on Valentine’s Day… and all dressed up… and reminding me again, and again- to lay out their clothes night(s) before- so I wouldn’t forget. And I didn’t. (thank You, Lord.)

Thinking on last year’s word {freedom} thinking again, and again….

Todd grocery shopping on Saturday…creamer, and coconut yogurt, and juice, and fruit…relief.


March Into April

the day the snow fell soft, huge, and thick… in March

Easter Book Read Alouds

Birthday Celebrations

an afternoon holding a new baby nephew

a face to face video call with a brother and another {darling}  nephew

a purple purse from my sister

a whisk of a visit from my Mom and all the wonderful provisions

a visit to see my Aunt with Ryan (although this was the day I think I started with the flu..- the visit was still very good!!)

tucked in cozy in my bed when the wind rattles and shakes the house

time to begin counting gifts again… it’s time












Easter 2018

Blessed Easter!!

Easter 2018 comprised of Easter “Love” Baskets stuffed with safe chocolates, sweets, and Empty Tombs.  My little one helped stuff some eggs with jelly beans and fruit gems. She helped me stuff them Saturday evening while listening to the Resurrection Eggs Devotional readings. What a darling, eager helper she is!

Special for this year- small chocolate eggs wrapped in foil from AmandasOwn– that were actually decorative when unwrapped- so pretty; a chocolate cross lollipop and our traditional lamb lollipop; Chocolates from No Whey

Tulips on the Table

Safe Treats from Aunt Nikki with Love

A Bowl full of Starburst jellybeans

Home-made Peanut Butter Cups

Rice Krispy Treats

Easter Dinner:


Mashed Potatoes

Special Green Beans

Tossed Salad

Applesauce in glass dishes

I took two separate lovely walks with dear ones. We spent a wonderful time around the four accounts of Jesus Resurrection this morning as a family. We enjoyed the bright glow of light for the last day or Lenten Lights after dinner- He is Risen! He is Risen Indeed!

And- the soundtrack of the classic Ben-Hur has played against the background of our afternoon and evening.

I do not have any good pictures to share from this day. I count myself blessed that I was able to be among my family and managed to fill  baskets full with love, joy, and chocolate. 🙂

I spent the whole week prior in quarantine in my room- and mostly in bed- with, I believe, Influenza B.

It was mild, as far as the flu goes, and true to B in adults. But, still days of fever and fatigue. It started on Sunday- with a terrible headache and fatigue- that I thought was merely exhaustion. I was wrong.

I am still weak- although stronger than yesterday. I was able to enjoy our Resurrection Egg tradition yesterday- and managed a very small walk outside with Joshua. I also took a nap. This illness exhausted me.

During my time “away”— alone in my room, (after the first two or three days down)  I was able to listen to podcasts and think. This was very good for my soul. I am percolating all the things I listened to and pondering.

So many things.

Today, there was birdsong, and golden light, and a pink, streaked sunset. There was my arm in his, and the fresh, chill air of early Spring.

There was a companionable walk with a teen son and our shared love of bird and skyscape.

There were brightly colored eggs and jelly beans. Yellow and White tulips. The Spring Green Tablecloth.

There was a “hatchamable” party- earlier in the day.  It took awhile to “hatch” those toys from Ama and Grandad- and it took a lot of love, too.

It was simple, and it was good. And, I still feel like I am recovering… and not quite all the way back. All in all, I am grateful- and ready for bed again!

A Poem for Easter:

Easter Wings by George Herbert

Lord, who createdst man in wealth and store,
      Though foolishly he lost the same,
            Decaying more and more,
                  Till he became
                        Most poore:
                        With thee
                  O let me rise
            As larks, harmoniously,
      And sing this day thy victories:
Then shall the fall further the flight in me.
My tender age in sorrow did beginne
      And still with sicknesses and shame.
            Thou didst so punish sinne,
                  That I became
                        Most thinne.
                        With thee
                  Let me combine,
            And feel thy victorie:
         For, if I imp my wing on thine,
Affliction shall advance the flight in me.

Happy Easter, friends!!!